Monthly Archives: February 2015

The Power of One Word

In mid-January of this year, I first heard about the movement to replace New Years’ resolutions with a “one word” theme. The idea is to choose one word to live by instead of making a list of resolutions likely to be forgotten by mid-February. It wasn’t a new idea, but it’s been slowly gaining momentum.

I didn’t actually pay close attention to the concept until the end of the month when I received some snail mail from my mom. Inside was a newspaper clipping which detailed the practice and advocated for readers to pick their word for the coming year. Without much thought or fanfare, I silently picked my word and then continued with my day.

Recently I have been thinking a lot about my word and what it means for me to really embody it. You see, my word for this year is TRUST.

Trust the process. Trust the flow. Trust the highs and trust the lows. Mainly, trust that I will be taken care of. As my unemployment ends with no source of income immediately in sight, what stronger need do I have right now then to trust?

If there is truth to the adage what we focus on is what we attract, then trust is a good focus for me. Because trust implies that there is nothing to worry about and nothing to fear. And trust me (all pun intended), right now I have plenty of reasons to feel both worry and fear.

So, what exactly is trust anyway? If we take the official definition, it’s an assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something. The some one right now is me and the some thing is God, Allah, Buddha, Spirit, Universe or whatever you want to call the energy that is greater than who we are as individuals.

I trust that I will figure things out. I trust that as I continue to move in the direction of my dreams and take action to make them come true, doors will open and I will be supported. I trust that I am resourceful enough to not end up broke and homeless.

I also trust that the Universe conspires to bring me my good. I trust that there is something greater than me that has called me to do the work I am doing. I believe support for my journey will be here every step of the way: even when I can’t see it. I trust all will be well.

That is a whole lot of TRUST taking place in 2015 already.

Stay tuned for future updates as I continue my journey … there is much to come and I am happy you are a part of it.

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Single on Valentine’s Day: Breaking the Relationship Addiction

I woke with my cats purring and gratitude in my heart for the simple act of waking. I’m single, so it took a few minutes before I remembered today is Valentine’s Day. When I did, I felt a warmth towards myself rather than a loneliness so many feel on this day.

I spent years hungry for a relationship. I would rarely go more than 3 months between the ending of one and the beginning of a new one. Once I was attached to someone, I’d quickly become co-dependent and needy.

I sometimes struggle not to feel as if I’ve wasted huge chunks of my life by staying in some of those relationships which were abusive or unhealthy. I was so desperate for love and afraid of being alone I put up with a lot of sh*t.

Intellectually and psychologically I understood that I needed to love myself. That was a bit hard, however, when I didn’t even know myself. Trying to fit into someone else’s definition of who I should be and how I should be didn’t allow much time for self-exploration.

Breaking my relationship addiction wasn’t easy. It took a several years of maybe going 6 months to a year between relationships only to find I’d repeat the same dysfunctional patterns in the next one. Although I was managing to lengthen the time between one relationship and the next, I was still searching.

Searching for love outside of ourselves isn’t always conscious. It certainly wasn’t for me. I’d think I was ready to date again only to find myself compromising what I wanted or feeling unfulfilled.

Once I really started spending more time with myself and not filling my days and nights with other people or distractions, I stopped needing to be in a couple relationship. I started really enjoying my own company. I got to know my individual likes and dislikes.

Today, I am open to a relationship but happy with the one I have with myself. This relationship is the best I’ve ever been in before. This day is MY day. When we fully love ourselves, we can fully love each other.

Wishing each of you a Happy Valentine’s Day – give love to yourself first and then let love flow.

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Happy Birthday to Me!

I am at the beach for my birthday celebration ~ 25 (reversed) today, February 9, 2015. Life continues to pass by at an alarming speed and my weeks fly by like the pelicans outside my window. Well, actually even faster – weeks turn into months and months turn into years with lightening speed.

About a week ago I decided to put up a poster board on the wall outside my bedroom and keep track of what I do each day. I thought perhaps it would help alleviate my sense each Friday that I hadn’t gotten anything done all week. I haven’t written on it since last Wednesday and even then there wasn’t a lot to write. So much for that idea.

It’s interesting how this happens for so many of us – our days melt one into the other and we often feel as if we’ve not gotten anything accomplished. If you’re anything like me, you look back at the end of the week wondering where it went. Inevitably I also feel some lack of forward movement, as if I’m still standing in the same place I was when the week began.

Of course in many ways, I am still standing in the same place. Existentially speaking there is only one place ever – and that is the here and now. Still … those parts of me whom believe I should have accomplished more external things are discontent with this existential rationale. I am, after all, in a society driven by accomplishments.

In the last few weeks I have felt as if I have tapped into a deeper and greater understanding of all things spiritual (and existential). It is as if I have felt in one of those ‘awakened’ states I have written about when talking of slumbering and awakening. My mind has been sharp and my vision clear.

The perception that I have finally ‘gotten’ these spiritual teachings I’ve been studying and wanting to share is however merely that – perception. With it has come an understanding that I will not always remain in this state of awareness. Furthermore, to even delineate between awakening and slumbering is to be caught in a judgment of one or the other as better or worse. Any state of judgment of ourselves or others separates us from the full experience of being.

However, that statement in itself can sound like a judgment, so I am also recognizing that as a human being with an ego, I cannot completely get away from my categorization and classification. I think this is partly why I’ve decided to assign the interpretation of “good” to everything that happens. You know, the old ‘find the silver lining’ idea.

But I digress. It is a sense of passing time with unfulfilled goals or achievements to which I started writing. The underlying dissatisfaction with myself for not having picked up the house, cleaned out the car or done whatever else is on my list of things “needing” to be done. For me, lately it’s about not having written more or taken additional steps to further my new career as a speaker and writer.

Not to mention, yes, there’s also the need to pick up my house and clean out my car. Instead I took off to the beach and shirked all of my responsibilities in order to celebrate. Thereby spending money I could say I ‘shouldn’t’ be spending and/or time I ‘shouldn’t’ be “wasting”.

And now it is Monday and Friday will be here before I know it. Another week gone and the question still present ‘what did I get done?’ All the little things I do each day don’t get noticed because the big things are hovering over me and I’ve subconsciously created a list of “should’s” and “should not’s”.

By setting so many goals, it’s easy for me to miss the journey. Thus, the passing of time. If my eyes are constantly on the horizon, I may not see the path beneath my feet. I can also then unconsciously make my happiness contingent on getting someplace else other than where I am.

This year, as I move into the full expression of who I am and open myself to being more fully present in the moment, I am committing to release attachment and judgment. Each moment unfolds into the next and I don’t expect time is going to slow down anytime soon (or ever). So, I will enjoy the journey, be gentle with myself, and feel gratitude for the now.

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Hi – thanks for signing up to get my blog postings at awakeninginlove.com! I’m sending this post since there are some of you who have signed up here who may not be signed up for my free teleseminar introduction to 8-steps to changing focus, getting in touch with the body wisdom and seeing things from a soul perspective. These 8-steps can help you get off auto-pilot and start changing your life.

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Thank you for being a part of my journey and allowing me to share with you my process of moving into the life of my dreams. Feel free to contact me with any questions or feedback!

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Beaming love,

Shannon Crane