If you read my last blog, you know I’m not big on New Year’s resolutions. It’s about this time of month I start getting sick of seeing articles and advertisements centered around the topic. Of course, it could be said this is just another one based on the title; however, I’ll let you be the judge of that.
The potential downside of so much focus on resolutions is the 92% of us who fail to keep ours can end up feeling pretty lousy. If you’ve already cheated on your self-promise, then you know what I’m talking about. Or maybe you didn’t bother to make any this year. I get that.
For those of us with a history of beating ourselves up for self-perceived failures, adding to the list isn’t very appealing. However, I suspect many of us are equally resistant to letting go of our ideals of self-improvement entirely. I think that’s why there is such popularity around how to keep our resolutions: we walk a fine balance between wanting and not wanting them.
For me, self-change has been a life long pursuit, and not something I’ve paid homage to just at the beginning of the year. I have little doubt it all started from a belief there was something wrong with me (maybe many somethings). Being a self-help junkie for so many years certainly nurtured that seed, although it’s like a weed that can grow just fine on its own.
Fortunately, I’ve come a long way; although I suspect I’ll always have the desire to be the best me I can be. Therefore, I’ll always be on the path of self-improvement. It can be a slippery slope if my motivation comes from trying to fix me instead of loving me.
In the process of self-change, I’ve moved further away from looking for motivation and now look for inspiration. I’m still exploring the ways motivation and inspiration are different, however I know inspiration feels more right. For example, I no longer want to be a motivational speaker: I want to be an inspirational one.
With whatever it is I decide to do, I’ve discovered a key ingredient I’ve often been missing is commitment. Intentions and resolutions may work, but commitment is like the super highway of travel. That’s why it’s the first step in the 8-step process I’ve developed to changing focus, getting in touch with the body wisdom and seeing things from a soul perspective. Actually, it’s hard to refer to it as a step at all since it’s really integrated into everything.
This year my commitment is to taking steps towards living my dream. It’s much deeper than any intention and specifically worded so it will be very difficult to “fail.” I honestly believe if I take steps, the path will unfold in the direction I want to go. And I’m committed to enjoying the journey along the way without attachment to any destination.
I believe my last blog mentioned a post-it note I wrote earlier this week; It says “What are 3 things I can do today to help move me in the direction of my dreams?” I may not take 3 actions every day, but it serves as a reminder to keep moving forward. My commitment makes it all possible.
A huge step I took this week was getting my teleclass posted on my website. Starting Tuesday, February 17, I’ll be holding a weekly phone conference to introduce others to the 8-steps which I have found so helpful in my own growth. I don’t promise to have all the answers, but I do know I’ve come a long way!
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